Day 18: Ask a Professional - Meet Bethany Williams!

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Through-out this series, you will be introduced to several professionals who have graciously offered to sit with me for an interview. The people I have chosen to interview have professional experience in dealing with the specific topics and would not mind (I’m sure) if you contacted them with questions. Ok, enough of my blabbing – here we go…

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Seida@ FTHC: What is your name? What are your qualifications?
Bethany:  My name is Bethany Williams. I am Licensed Professional Counselor Intern and Quarterlife Crisis Counselor in West Columbia, SC.
 
Seida@ FTHC:  What is the name of your practice? Where is it located?

Bethany: The name of my practice is CAP Counseling. CAP stands for Creating Authentic Purpose. My website is www.capcounseling.com
 
Seida@ FTHC: Tell us a little bit about yourself. Anything counts. =)
Bethany: I help unfulfilled, disillusioned, 20-something women get reconnected with  their calling and on fire to create a life of passion and purpose.
 
Seida@ FTHC: What is your therapeutic specialty? How did you start in this area? 
Bethany: I specialize in helping women who are experiencing a
quarterlife crisis. A quarterlife crisis (coined from the term midlife crisis), is a period of time, that usually starts in your 20's, where there's extreme disappointment, unfulfillment and concern about the quality of your life and the choices made. 
 
It's common among college students who earn a degree believing that they'll be able to get a good job and feel good about their future after college; sometimes that just not the case. So you’re left to figure it all out; figure out what's missing and become a responsible adult without a real roadmap. Not to mention, the pressures you may feel from society, family and from yourself to have it all (marriage, successful career, kids) before age 30. 
 
A Quarter-life crisis is unique to women because of the change in women's roles over the last few decades. Women in their twenties and early 30s are now a part of the millennial generation. Our moms were among the first to really enter the workforce, but many of that generation still worked in traditional women's roles...teachers, nurses, secretaries. My grandmother was even more limited in career options and many women of her generation stayed home with their children at some point in their lives.
 
Our generation of women, on the other hand, was the first to be told that we could have it ALL. We could be pilots, construction workers, scientist, astronauts, engineers, whatever we wanted to be. We are also the first generation to have been raised by so many single parents. So we're taught to be independent... dependence on a man as a source of income was less of a priority than ever before. It's seemingly now a women's responsibility to take care of herself. She's her own source of stability and financial success. It's a lot of pressure and can lead to extreme indecisiveness, anxiety and self-doubt.
 
I started my practice after working in several jobs in which I felt unfulfilled and overwhelmed. I became unhappy feeling that I could not have an impact on clients the way I knew that I was supposed to, experiencing a bit of my
ownquarterlife crisis. So I took a risk and stepped out on faith to pursue my purpose and I wake up excited every day to help other women do their version of the same.
 
Seida@ FTHC: What tips do you have for people you work with (your niche) about developing better relationships with those around them?
Bethany: I think we have to be mindful of the people we have in our circle and realize that some folks are only there for a season. At times, we feel that our relationships from college or even high school are ones we need to hold on to. We often feel guilty for not keeping in touch and fostering relationships that don't feel right to us anymore. But as you grown and change, and find that your circle changes, realize that that's ok.  Let it be. 
 
If it doesn't feel right to you, there's a reason for that. When you hang around people that are stuck, bitter, resentful and jealous there will always be strife and conflict. You'll feel you have to prove yourself. They will make you feel bad for having big dreams and they will push their limitations onto you. There will always be a struggle. 
 
 It's a lot easier to have authentic, healthy, and valuable relationships with others when you're surrounded by people with similar mindsets; people who are working towards similar goals. Stay connected with people who want to see you be great and who you can help in their journey towards the same. 
 
Seida@ FTHC: What is the biggest lesson you learned from a client?
Bethany: The biggest lesson that I learned from a client is one that I feel is universal to us all. She was married, beautiful kids, financial stability but still felt there was a missing piece to her life. She could not find fulfillment in her life until she satisfied the need and burning desire she had to serve others. 
 
She confirmed for me that we're put on this earth to have an impact, to make the world a better place...to change lives. Once we get in alignment with that, in whatever capacity that may be, life get's a little easier. Life truly feels worth living. 
 
Seida@ FTHC: Any more nuggets of wisdom to share?
Bethany: Start now. If there's a dream or a passion in your heart, start today. It's ok if you don't have all the answers.
 
 Just set the goal, release your ambitions into the universe, activate your faith and watch things begin to work in your favor. 
 
Time is passing us by regardless of what we choose to do with it. So yes, baby steps are OK. Ask and seek help when you feel unsure or things become too overwhelming but don't look back at your life 10, 20 years from now wishing that you would've. 
 
Falling in love with your life is your responsibility and yours alone.
 
Tomorrow’s post: 5 Therapists in Illinois You Should Know

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